One of the hardest things you can go through is seeing a close friend going through a traumatic experience. When the traumatic experience is their relationship, it can make things ten times worse. Not only can you make things worse by involving yourself, but you can put yourself in danger. Below are some tips on how to help a friend out of an abusive relationship and how to spot the signs of an abusive relationship in a safe way.
How To Spot The Signs Of An Abusive Relationship
Not sure if your friend is going through an abusive relationship? Keep an eye out for the following traits in their partner.
Have you noticed that their partner is possessive? Always wanting to know where your friend is at all times? Sending texts asking for proof? This is one of the earliest signs of an abusive partner. It’s a way of saying that they don’t trust the other person in their relationship, and this can lead to feelings of isolation in a relationship.
Controlling behaviour can come in all forms. It can be limiting access to a joint car, bank accounts or simply where you can and can’t go. Habits like this can lead to a breakdown in trust in a relationship, which can lead to emotional and even physical abuse.
Does your friend worry about their partner? Have they expressed concern about what they may think of a certain outfit or what you’re doing together? Their worry could be a sign that they’re afraid of what their partner might say or do about a certain matter.
I Think My Friend Is In An Abusive Relationship: What Next?
If you think your friend is involved with an abusive partner, it might be a sign that you need to open up a dialogue with them. Sometimes, things can be explained away and things can go back to normal. But sometimes, starting the conversation might be just what your friend needs in order to open up to someone.
How Can I Talk To A Friend About An Abusive Relationship?
Well, this depends on your friend. There is only so much you can do for someone who doesn’t want help. One way you can open up a dialogue about abuse is to educate them on the warning signs. If your friend can see that they are involved with someone who has abusive traits, they may finally try and help themselves. For those in denial, this can be a bit harder. The best you can do is be there for them when you can.
My Friend Has Left Their Partner: How Can I Help
If your friend has decided to leave their partner, there are a number of ways in which you can help. For one, you can offer support in terms of money (if possible) and a place to stay. The best thing anyone can do when leaving an abusive relationship is to find somewhere new to live – if you can offer them a place to stay, it’s one less thing to worry about. If the relationship was abusive, inform them about how they can claim compensation for abuse from CICA UK.
Guest post by Gina Kay Daniel